Welcome to my counselling & psychotherapy webpages
I am a BACP accredited counsellor/psychotherapist, based in Blewbury (Oxfordshire, OX11), a short drive from Didcot, Wantage, Wallingford and Harwell. I also teach Neuropsychotherapy at CPPD Counselling School.
Please note that I am on leave from 17-27 March.
I guess you feel something needs to change and by visiting these pages you've just made a first step towards making that change. I hope reading a bit about counselling and psychotherapy, how you may benefit from it, and how I work, will help you make your next step; commit yourself to a journey of self-discovery.
Counselling and psychotherapy can make you more aware of how you've come to do things the way you do. Counselling and psychotherapy is about becoming aware of what's going on beneath the surface; lessons about life you forgot you learned. It is about regaining control over your life of today.
There is growing scientific evidence that counselling and psychotherapy, sometimes together with medication, works. But finding the right counsellor/psychotherapist, conditional for a successful outcome, may feel like a daunting task.
I know it takes courage to go on this journey of self-discovery even though you really feel something needs to change. I hope I can support and empower you on that journey.
Increasingly insights gained from neuroscience underpin the effectiveness of the psychodynamic approach to counselling. Psychotherapy and counselling is about reflecting on how we've come to feel and behave the way we do. We tend to see the world through the prism of early experiences, do things the way they once were effective, without realising the world we live in now is different. We do notice though how we feel and how things aren't going our way. Counselling and psychotherapy are ways of making us aware of how we operate, about discovering what we know but were unaware of. It is of importance to every human being; it empowers. Awareness is a life skill.
But especially when you feel alone, frightened, in pain or have a sense that nothing has meaning anymore counselling and psychotherapy can help. You may find yourself preoccupied with thoughts; worrying what people might think or what might happen. You want to talk but feel that no-one you know will understand. The thought of talking about what you really feel might be scary in itself. However you know something needs to change; you're not living your life to the full.
Counselling and psychotherapy, or talking therapy, can help you; it is an opportunity for you to talk and expres feelings in a way that won't affect family members or friends as well as a way of gaining new perspectives. You will also discover how what you feel may help you make well informed decisions with healthy outcomes; that they can help and you don't need to be afraid of them.
Counselling becomming less of a stigma
More people in Oxfordhire are seeking help from a counsellor or psychotherapist, and there’s growing public awareness there needs to be parity of esteem between mental and physical health. More people are openly talking about their mental health problems. According to the office for National Statistics as many as 19% of people in the UK suffer from depression and anxiety (The Guardian).
The BACP report, Psychological Therapies and Parity of Esteem: from commitment to reality, was very well received at its launch on 3 December 2014.
The BACP's 2014 national public attitudes survey, conducted by Ipsos MORI in March, which surveyed 2084 adults aged 16–75 (not just from Oxfordshire but from across the UK) revealed that 28 per cent had consulted a counsellor/psychotherapist, seven per cent more than in 2010, when the previous survey was carried out. Overall, 54 per cent had sought help from a counsellor or psychotherapist or knew a family member, friend or work colleague who had. In the 2004 survey, 60 per cent of people agreed that ‘people today spend too much time dwelling on their emotional difficulties; in 2014 this had dropped to 39 per cent.
How do you work?
I use insights from a variety of models, integrating insights from Biology, Psychology and Affective neuroscience, all depending on what feels right for you. I firmly believe in the capacity of human beings to overcome hardship and despair.
I believe we are all different. Counselling is not a mechanical process. This means that certain counselling or therapy styles suit some people more than others. As a counsellor/psychotherapist in Oxfordshire I practice integrative therapy, meaning I draw from a range of approaches, including behavioural, person centred and mindfulness, to provide what feels right for you. In addition I integrate findings from the new discipline of affective neuroscience.
How long does it take?
You may only need a short period of counselling, some benefit from a little more time in psychotherapy. For those who suffered neglet, physical or sexual abuse, especially at a young age, it may take a long time to work through the experience and come to terms with what's happened. The main thing is for you go along your journey at a pace that feels right for you. Every now and then we will reflect on progress.
You can read more on the page with testimonials how other people experienced counselling and psychotherapy with me.
I am accredited by the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy and registered with the United Kingdom Register of Counsellors and Psychotherapists (UKRCP). Being registered as a counsellor/psychotherapist in Oxfordshire (BACP) means I have done the requisite training and achieved and maintain the professional qualifications necessary for good practice.
I'm originally from the Netherlands and welcome Dutch speaking clients. I lived in London for many years where I worked for Victim Support, as a school counsellor for Place2be and in private practice before moving to Blewbury (near Didcot, Wallingford, Wantage and Goring).
Click (here) for more details about my qualifications. You can also see an Interview with me about domestic violence on YouTube.
Where to find me
My counselling and psychotherapy practice is in Blewbury (Oxfordshire OX11), only a short drive from Didcot, Wallingford, Wantage and Goring.