WelcomeI am a BACP accredited counsellor/psychotherapist, based in Blewbury (Oxfordshire, OX11), a short drive from Didcot, Wantage, Wallingford and Harwell. This website is to help you find out more about counselling and psychotherapy and how I work. Finding the right counsellor may feel like a daunting task and I know it also takes courage to go on this journey. I hope you find these pages helpful and if so contact me for an introductory session
The site includes testimonials from people who came for counselling or psychotherapy to my practice in Blewbury (Oxfordshire OX11). These may help you get some idea of what counselling and psychotherapy with me might be like.
This how one client recently described her experience:
My experience of the sessions was like you shining a torch in the dark.
Why counselling?Counselling is about taking care of your mental health, reflecting on how we've come to feel and behave the way we do. It is of importance to every human being. Awarenes is a life skill.
But especially when you feel alone, frightened, in pain or have a sense that nothing has meaning anymore counselling can help. You may find yourself preoccupied with thoughts; worrying what people might think or what might happen. You want to talk but feel that no-one you know will understand. The thought of talking about what you really feel might be scary in itself. However you know something needs to change; you're not living your life to the full.
Counselling and psychotherapy, or talking therapy, can help you; it is an opportunity for you to talk and expres feelings in a way that won't affect family members or friends as well as a way of gaining new perspectives. You will also discover how what you feel may help you make well informed decisions with healthy outcomes; that they can help and you don't need to be afraid of them.
Counselling becomming less of a stigmaMore people in Oxfordhire are seeking help from a counsellor or psychotherapist, and there’s growing public awareness there needs to be parity of esteem between mental and physical health.
The new BACP report, Psychological Therapies and Parity of Esteem: from commitment to reality, was very well received at its launch on 3 December at an event at the Houses of Parliament. It was welcomed both by Norman Lamb, Minister of State for Care and Support, and by Luciana Berger, Shadow Minister for Public Health.
The BACP's 2014 national public attitudes survey, conducted by Ipsos MORI in March, which surveyed 2084 adults aged 16–75 (not just from Oxfordshire but from across the UK) revealed that 28 per cent had consulted a counsellor/psychotherapist, seven per cent more than in 2010, when the previous survey was carried out. Overall, 54 per cent had sought help from a counsellor or psychotherapist or knew a family member, friend or work colleague who had. In the 2004 survey, 60 per cent of people agreed that ‘people today spend too much time dwelling on their emotional difficulties; in 2014 this had dropped to 39 per cent.
How do you work?I use insights from a variety of models, integrating insights from Biology, Psychology and Affective neuroscience, all depending on what feels right for you. I firmly believe in the capacity of human beings to overcome hardship and despair.
I believe we are all different. Counselling is not a mechanical process. This means that certain counselling or therapy styles suit some people more than others. As a counsellor/psychotherapist in Oxfordshire I practice integrative therapy, meaning I draw from a range of approaches, including behavioural, person centred and mindfulness, to provide what feels right for you. In addition I integrate findings from the new discipline of affective neuroscience.
How long does it take?You may only need a short period of counselling, some benefit from a little more time in psychotherapy. For those who suffered neglet, physical or sexual abuse, especially at a young age, it may take a long time to work through the experience and come to terms with what's happened. The main thing is for you go along your journey at a pace that feels right for you. Every now and then we will reflect on progress.
You can read more on the page with testimonials how other people experienced counselling and psychotherapy with me.
QualificationsI am accredited by the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy and registered with the United Kingdom Register of Counsellors and Psychotherapists (UKRCP). Being registered as a counsellor/psychotherapist in Oxfordshire (BACP) means I have done the requisite training and achieved and maintain the professional qualifications necessary for good practice.
I'm originally from the Netherlands and welcome Dutch speaking clients. I lived in London for many years where I worked for Victim Support, as a school counsellor for Place2be and in private practice before moving to Blewbury (near Didcot, Wallingford, Wantage and Goring).
Click (here) for more details about my qualifications. You can also see an Interview with me about domestic violence on YouTube.